How can we Forgive Someone.

  How many of us remember what we have eaten in breakfast a day before yesterday, many of us take more then 30 seconds but even then aren't sure about what we had eaten, but we all remember, what some one had said 10 years before ,accurately word-to-word. It all our choice, what we opt to remember and what we don't want to remember . Its all about our choices .

Many times we get hurt from many of the people's even they don't have any intention to do that. But we get hurt then also. We often say that he hurt me, she hurt me, they hurt me. But have you ever thought that why do we get hurt, we get hurt because our mind say that, he had hurt me, she had hurt me. Its all depends on that situation, how do we take it. If we take that person responsible then we cannot forgive someone because we blame person instead of our mind .

Why do we get hurt?

We get hurt because we take it in our conscious that they disrespected me, they hurted me, they insulted me. All have the powers to hurt you financially, economically, socially but no one have the power to hurt you emotionally,  as no one can get inside of your own emotions,as they are too personal that even others can't know it. So how they can hurt, but when we take these things seriously in our own conscious we feel hurt badly.

Why do we blame the situation and the other person??

We have a habit of blaming others because we can't take it on ourselves and therefore we blame others. If we take it on ourselves, as a thinking of our own mind and blame our mind for making that situation complicated then it will be very easy, not to blame others because we have got someone to blame. And when we have someone to blame then we will reduce our habit of blaming others as well. 

What to do when you feel someone hurt you?

Everyone says what they think and they don't have any intention to hurt us, they simply say what they feel without any wrong intention. Someone had said something and they forget about it, it is us who take those things for several years as a wound and we expect  that they will come and say sorry to us or change themselves but when  they haven't done anything wrong then, why should they change themselves?  why should they feel sorry? 

If also they had made mistake, just don't expect anything from others because when you expect something from others, and when its not done you feel so much ignored and start having negativity in your mind.

How you can forgive someone including yourself ?

When you don't expect anything thing form others, neither sorry nor change then you can easily forgive them because you don't expect anything form them instead you have to forgive your own mind for thinking wrong about someone .

When you don't expect anything from anyone,  you do not get easily hurt by anyone else and you make it into your habit now to easily forgive and when the years passes by your mind also don't think wrong about anything anymore.